Welcome to part 6 of 8 in “Confessions of An Anxious Leader or Chasing the Leadership Dragon.” In each of these posts I’m listing how systems thinking affects how I think about leadership. I now think about leadership as a matter of maturity.
What systems theory has taught me is that we grow and mature as we shift focus or emphasis in several categories of life. Some of these categories apply to individuals, some apply to congregations, some apply to both. I list these shifts or directions in no particular order. Today we look at item number five.
5) Maturity knows it’s always integrated into emotional process, and thus accepts pain as a part of growth, even seeks it out to a degree. Immaturity, on the other hand, seeks only solace and comfort. Ask any teenager; it’s hard growing up. Ask any professional; success comes by hard work. Ask anyone who’s been married for more than 10 years; relationships take work to grow. So why then do we expect Church to be only a warm blanket? A move toward maturity accepts a certain level of discomfort as holy, knowing that the discomfort does not necessarily indicate a problem, but a winnowing. Discomfort can be the legitimate residue of putting away childish things, adapting to a new reality, and trusting more in God than ourselves. A shift toward maturity seeks to learn from the pain, rather than merely look for the ibuprofen.
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