Top Songs That Remind Me to Think Systems

2382_1099538804794_6145_nThese songs, more than most, lead me to reflect on various aspects of the Eight Concepts of Bowen Family Systems Theory. None of these songs explains systems thinking perfectly, or even tries to; but I’ve included snippets of the lyrics that stand out for me and help me stay on track.

For doing one’s family of origin work: “Surrender”–Cheap Trick

Your Mommy’s all right

Your Daddy’s all right

They just seem a little weird



But don’t give yourself away


When tempted to distance: “One”–U2

We’re one but we’re not the same


When tempted to fuse: “Mind Your Own Business”–Hank Williams (I like the Taj Mahal version)

If you mind your own business,

you’ll stay busy all the time.


For facing challenges: “Defying Gravity”–Wicked

I think I’ll try

Defying gravity

And you can’t pull me down


For taking a stand: “Let It Go”–Frozen

Here I stand

In the light of day


When Looking for Leaders: “(What’s So Funny Bout) Peace, Love, and Understanding”–Elvis Costello

So where are the strong?

And who are the trusted?


As A Playful Reminder When I Get Nervous: (Caution; do not use as a diagnostic tool for others.): “Canary In A Coalmine”–The Police

First to fall over when the atmosphere is less than perfect

Your sensibilities are shaken by the slightest defect

You live you life like a canary in a coalmine

You get so dizzy even walking in a straight line


What others come to mind for you?

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