These songs, more than most, lead me to reflect on various aspects of the Eight Concepts of Bowen Family Systems Theory. None of these songs explains systems thinking perfectly, or even tries to; but I’ve included snippets of the lyrics that stand out for me and help me stay on track.
For doing one’s family of origin work: “Surrender”–Cheap Trick
Your Mommy’s all right
Your Daddy’s all right
They just seem a little weird
But don’t give yourself away
When tempted to distance: “One”–U2
We’re one but we’re not the same
When tempted to fuse: “Mind Your Own Business”–Hank Williams (I like the Taj Mahal version)
If you mind your own business,
you’ll stay busy all the time.
For facing challenges: “Defying Gravity”–Wicked
I think I’ll try
And you can’t pull me down
For taking a stand: “Let It Go”–Frozen
Here I stand
In the light of day
When Looking for Leaders: “(What’s So Funny Bout) Peace, Love, and Understanding”–Elvis Costello
So where are the strong?
And who are the trusted?
As A Playful Reminder When I Get Nervous: (Caution; do not use as a diagnostic tool for others.): “Canary In A Coalmine”–The Police
First to fall over when the atmosphere is less than perfect
Your sensibilities are shaken by the slightest defect
You live you life like a canary in a coalmine
You get so dizzy even walking in a straight line
What others come to mind for you?